Learn ways to bond with your teenager and start talking again
Communication gap can create havoc in parent-child relationship and lead to more serious and undesirable repercussions. However, with a little bit of effort, usually initiated by parents, this gap can be bridged and transformed into a strong foundation for a happy family.
Babyhood, toddlerhood and pre-teen years are adorable phases of a child’s life. However, with the onset of teenage begin several problems. Kids suddenly seem more reclusive and irritable. They prefer solitude or peer company. Parents, on the other hand, for whom their babies always remain babies, fail to change with time and alter their way of communicating and bonding with their children. With time, these tiny fissures in parent-child relationship turn into major rifts that can shake the foundation of a happy family.
Unfortunately, neither parents nor teens realize the magnanimity of the problem before it is too late. So, it is important that parents understand what their teens go through and make efforts to bridge this communication gap. Here are some helpful ways to reach out to your teen.
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Avoid being judgmental
Often, building the bridge does not require tons of efforts. All it takes is an understanding of what a child goes through as he or she matures into an adult. Besides the physical changes that are apparent when you look at your child, there are a lot of hormones at play that bring major psychological and emotional changes as well. The best thing that a parent can do is to listen to the child without being judgmental.
Understand the psychological pressures
Teens are under tremendous psychological pressure from the society, peers and unfortunately, parents as well, which can lead to depression and problems such as substance abuse as well. It is the lack of consideration amidst all this, that leads to the problems setting in; because although the child appears physically grown up, the mind still has a long way to go before thinking like an adult.
Understand and help with everyday dilemmas
Often, teenagers are met with confusing crossroads and are at a loss as to which direction to take. As a parent, understand the importance of acting as a siphon for your child. These dilemmas no matter how trivial they might appear to you, matter a lot to your child. Create a comfortable ambiance at home where the child can speak to you without hesitation and ask for your opinions without the fear of being snubbed or ridiculed.
Give directions; but, subtly
If required prompt the child subtly. Talk about your growing up years so that your child realizes that you have been there too. This will bring both of you on a common platform and communication becomes easier. A positive home environment prevents a teenager from developing ADHD, which is a common condition during this phase of life. Sometimes, all that you need to do is lend a patient ear. Rather than giving suggestions, guide the child through the right chain of thought and let him arrive at the right conclusion on his own. Most importantly, never directly say that the teenager is wrong because this sows the seeds of rebellion. Make your teen realize mistakes or deal with issues by helping him analyze the situation.
As a parent, you undergo a lot of pain and stress as well when you realize that your baby does not need you as much as before. Nevertheless, you have to be strong for your child’s sake and stop being over possessive because it will drive the child miles away from you. So, be a friend and you will find a friend in your child as well.