Build Your Child’s Emotional Health

on Thursday, 29 March 2012. Posted in Parenting, Kid's Health Written By: Anusuya Suresh

Know ways to enahance your child's emotional health

Build Your Child’s Emotional Health

Building emotional health in children is as important as is the job of making children physically healthy. In fact, an emotionally healthy child is more likely to be physically healthy as well.

It is therefore, important for parents to understand the importance of emotional health and learn ways to raise confident kids who are mentally at ease with themselves. Here some of the most effective tips for good emotional health in children.

Spend Time with Your Kids

Agreed, spending time together can be tough when both parents are working and the kids have their own tight schedules between school and hobby classes. Yet, it is crucial to spend at least a few minutes together as a family, for, you’ll be creating memories for them to cherish throughout life.

Make it a point to have at least one meal of the day, together. Have a routine of playing for at least 10 minutes with your kids every day. Read your kids a story before they go to bed. Use these moments together to really bond, get to know what issues your kids face and engage in a discussion that teaches them, without actually lecturing them.

Build Self-Esteem

Too often, we are so busy with our “adult” priorities that we unknowingly snap at kids, or convey disapproval through our body language, or ignore our children, stating we have more important things to do.

Always remain mindful and aware of the words you throw and the actions you perform. Look out for things to appreciate, praise the smallest of accomplishments, but be sincere in your praise or the child will recognize your comments as being phony. Find something specific to praise; for example, “It was good of you to wait to complete your homework before running out to play,” rather than just a general “You are a good kid.”

Always remember that kids get a major part of their self-worth through how they believe their parents see them.

Use Rules to Build Discipline

Kids require specific, well-spelt out rules to know what is expected of them and what is taboo. This helps them to learn the art of self-control, too. Be prepared to deal with kids testing the limits of what is allowed, and always follow-through with the consequences you specified. If you said the kid will have to forego 30 minutes of TV time if he did not complete his school assignments, make sure you don’t relent. Consistency is the key to good discipline. However, it is vital you help them to understand the “why” behind a rule rather than blindly enforce it.

Have a Flexible Approach

It is important for parents to keep their minds open to making changes in the way they deal with their kids. Rather than have rigid ideas about how things “should” be, it makes more sense to consider the circumstances when making a decision.

For example, it may be correct to expect your child to wear a particular outfit when going to a party, but allow him the freedom to choose what he wants to wear at home. Be prepared to adapt your parenting style to the age of your kids – what works with a four-year old will not with a 10-year old.

Be a Role Model

If you get irritated at the slightest of things, but advice your kids always to have patience, what do you think they will adopt – your words or your acts? When it comes to children especially, actions always speak louder than words.

Therefore, always be aware of your behavior in front of the kids. Try to remain positive and encouraging, express gratitude and respect through your speech and behavior with others in the family and help your kids watch you tackle events with a quiet self-confidence and love.

Parenting can be difficult, but handled the right way; it can also be one of the most fulfilling of tasks you have ever performed. Raise your kids right, and then, you need not worry about how they will cope with life when you are not around to help them.

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